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Someone for everyone

October 24 2015

I hope this doesn't double post... Kicked me for inactivity after i finished the last attempt at making this topic so i don't know if it went through or not. Do you remember that kid at school, or perhaps someone you once worked with, who was just so... wrong? Perhaps they were an uber nerd, or had bad personal hygiene or even a deformity that they couldn't help. Perhaps you picked on them as children are want to do, or perhaps you tried to befriend and understand them until their negatives grated against your sensibilities so much you had to admit defeat as i did. And yet you see them now, perhaps while out shopping or visiting the gym, and they appear to be in a happy relationship. Isn't it amazing that there really does seem to be someone for everyone? I can think of several examples from my school and uni days and i know all of them to be married. It seems so contrary to expectation for me as I was a classic example of what appeared by all rights to be a success story in the making and yet the opposite has turned out to be my lot in life. nonetheless i can't subscribe to the concept without acknowledging that there must therefore be someone out there for me too. Someone for everyone... Isn't it astounding? Yet so often exemplified as to be hard to dispute.

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MissBishere

10 years ago

Where I think this can't possibly be true. And I fear I will be alone for the rest of my life... What if I missed my chance? What if I didn't recognize him at the time?

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RHP User

10 years ago

Sigh xxFreya

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MsJonesy

10 years ago

the someone for me.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I was that "wrong" person in school for several reasons and was bullied viciously for years. The key for me is finding people as fucked up as myself, who have been there and have come out the other end too.

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RHP User

10 years ago

...don't believe everything you see . That person from school may not be so happy in their relationship and may very well envy the simple life of the bachelor.Wistful thinking has its dangers too. Just be happy with yourself...

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RHP User

10 years ago

Having had conversations about the last few years in my life many people have said ' you've had it tough, it must be hard' I have never seen it that way. So I'm very aware that, as Koolgrey alludes to, a persons perception is not always reality. So no I don't look at others and wonder. Not consciously anyway. Don't do envy or jealousy either. But understand that many do, particularly on social media. We put what we want people to see. The good things. Or the 'look at me I'm a victim' in some cases. This is what sways our perception of others. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, but we need to put things into perspective. We are all different. You only need to look on RHP to see how different.

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RHP User

10 years ago

It is possible, but not the case, that everyone will find love at some point. Remember: 1. It may not last to the length of that desired; 2. It may not come in the form of a relationship, there are plenty of other types of love and life fulfilment; 3. You might not feel the need for it; (eg along the lines of sex, see asexuality, and there's plenty of other brain chemistry variations) 4. You might get hit by a bus too soon (or other endings too soon); 5. Ever seen The Velvet Road? About a sex worker often specialising with the severely handicapped? Not everyone is capable of the opportunities the rest of us have. 6. As per above posts, appearances can also be decieving, as to whether someone is happy or not. Mathematically speaking, it's basically possible, due to have a roughly 50/50 split between the M/F genders globally or nationally. But while there is order to the chaos that is society, the chaos/randomness that exists will ensure that nearly all possibilities are probable, including the probability that many people won't find love, that it will be easier for some and more difficult for others, it will happen soon for some and very late in life for others, and that some people won't get along etc etc. This randomness would also indicate the potential of points 7 through 50, if I could think that far right now. But if there's a great positive to the OP's post, it shows that people are all typically CAPABLE of giving/recieving love, if they choose to, with or without assistance and as per their mental & physical capabilities, and that people can change/improve/learn/reform/develop/bond regardless of their current/past circumstances.

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Dryphuz

10 years ago

because i shared classes with Shannon McCoole and how you never can tell. He gave no indication then of what he was to become. Several of his friends were far more oddball. And being the lonely bloke i am i inevitably end up thinking about all the oddballs and how they seem to have done better than I. I may not have been a Romeo or don Juan, but i had been pursued often enough so i was expecting my future tilting in the lists of love to be frequent and relatively successful, but it seems that once high school was over my horse threw a shoe (to stretch a metaphor).

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RHP User

10 years ago

Shannon McCoole..how very odious...I went to school with Raelene Boyle .we were in different years so we were never friends...I can't say that I have ever envied her . ..do I think there is someone for everyone..No xxFreys

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RHP User

10 years ago

I have someone so am speaking from a privileged position I guess but I have spent much of my time alone, teens to 30's were a tragedy of Shakespearian proportions. The way I see it is that life would be so much more joyous for so many more people if we didn't insist on confining ourselves to such a narrow straightjacket of what defines a desirable/acceptable relationship and with who.

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