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Validations
March 01 2019
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m turned off if there is a stack of validations and then a stack of friends in the friends list... I understand validations do help people to determine that that profile is actually someone who shows up to a meet - which is always great to know... however when there are copious amounts of validations I wonder where the line becomes blurred and you just become another body in a bed as opposed to a person and do horns have to be tooted so much?? 🤔
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
Well no, not everyone is sleeping with everyone. I have 8 validations between here and my couples profiles and have only slept with 2 of those validators. And the validations l have completed l haven't slept with those people either. I know right, who would of thunk 🤷🏻♀️
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RHP User
7 years ago
Totally agree I am turned off lots of validations as well. I don't need to know how many other people a guy fucks. Instead of making me want to meet him it does the opposite. But each to their own. 😊
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Are not an indication they have had sex with each other. If one assumes that, it says to me they have already made up their minds that they have. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
They are as much about telling people that this person is genuine and has met other people as they are about sex. As for the sexual ones....just because Jimmylongcock was a beast in bed and made someone come 22 times, it doesnt mean that he will float everyones boat in the bedroom. I see them more as an indication that someone has met, and/or communicated with and likes the person.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes for us it might meant we met them and they are real. No validations tends to question if someone if real or not.A lot of single guys have loads of validations but i think that reflects that single guys have lots of sex!For couples it allows us to see that someone is real and possibly worth meeting but we do understand where you are coming from!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Agree. One or two for validation purposes is fine.
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RHP User
7 years ago
So if validations are for when you social meet as well why do most of them tend to sound that they are more than this? And excuse the potentially silly question - this is a learning curve for me so am curious
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some say we met and they are real that doesn’t imply you have had sex Some say met and they are sexy again no sex implied Some say had a great night with them this could mean hot sex or really enjoyed there company If you meet someone at an social event you could validate them after meeting and chatting It’s about showing people are real I guess
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RHP User
7 years ago
So how does a validation get through then? It goes through an approval process - how does that work? Under what conditions does it get approved? How do we know people have met? Who’s confirming this? Just because a validation is there doesn’t mean it’s a solid gold guarantee.. lol I once saw a profile where the guy was either validated by himself from a second profile or it has sincerely his doppelgänger
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RHP User
7 years ago
A lot of people saying a validation could just be a meet at a party. I question if you should really be validating someone simply from that. And to be honest every validation I’ve read is about how amazing and sexy and wild their night was so to me that implies sex. Never read a validation on just a meet and greet . And agreed when you have a bunch of people validating someone I skip straight past. Call me judgemental but it is something that’s is such a turn off.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
Some people prefer validations to know that someone is actually real, and more correctly, is of a decent character. It especially helps if they know or know of the person validating. Seeing that anyone can write in their profile that they are a genuine respectful person and whatever, and yet still send messages of abuse when rejected etc, having validations that simply refer to someone being of decent character could make a difference. Catch 22 though - So you can have them and lose out on the people that don't like them, or you can have none and lose out on the people that prefer them. In my case, I do not have any validations, although I think it might help for the purpose of being a social event host, but that hasn't seemed to affect interested numbers in the past. And, like the friends list, it is no indication of sex unless is it obvious, which many are of course. FYI I have not been with anyone on my friends list either.
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
Some of us actually organise events and parties and don't sleep with EVERY person we meet but people know we're genuine especially when they're handing over money prior to an event.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Validations are anything both members want them to be. We only have two validations, and they are from parties. Our first two friends we spoke on the phone with or exchanged live pics. Everyone else other than the one party, we have met in person and know they are real. We don't want to sleep with a great deal of people and are ideally looking for an ongoing fwb or play friends with one or two couples, so that we can explore many things together instead of having one night stands. We are all different, and RHP caters for that.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
I may add... Some couples don't mind validations especially if they want a gb or similar, because it's a way of weeding out the time wasters of which most are, and knowing who will actually show up when they say they will and will be respectful when they say they will. And yes in that case the validation will be about sex. Of course, that's assuming the validation is originally worded and actually goes into details on those things.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The 2 validations I have are from women I’ve never met...lol They sent them through as merely a piss take.... Does it prove I’m real ?? No....that becomes a very subjective experience... But a lot of validations don’t turn me off....the way they are worded are as it’s usually sexually charged, and for some reason quite a few seem to say “I can’t wait to go round 2??” And it’s got me fucked why that’s a question ... I mean are they asking to come back again truly or what??
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist'The 2 validations I have are from women I’ve never met...lol They sent them through as merely a piss take.... Does it prove I’m real ?? No....that becomes a very subjective experience... I wrote you a validation once, and I know you personally! I believe it simply said "What a dick...". I think what I'm trying to say is that I like validations that aren't sexual, but were written to say a member is real, a decent person, and reliable. That's what mine are for, anyway. I do like the piss-take ones too though. I had one for ages on my previous profile that merely stated I had a spectacular cunt. I don't know whether it got me more or fewer messages, and I don't care. I loved it, and never a truer word has been spoken.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I can honestly say the Anti Christ is definitely UNREAL :)
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ReyandJean
7 years ago
On a site with so many fake profiles and wannabees, validations helps identify the profiles that have real people behind them Agree that the "wild hot sex" type validations are unnecessarily explicit.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol solitary yes that validation was indeed very much a double entendre which I enjoy... Lol Q.....a definite mould was destroyed bahaha There’s never going to be a more perfect method for verifying someone’s genuineness than their own actions....I find it baffling that people want some kind of shortcut to the end game...it makes the whole journey for me far too impersonal, as having conversations, and navigating through life’s hiccoughs and detours are part of the experience for me and I think it inhibits establishing connection.... I’ll acknowledge though it’s probably an overthink....
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RHP User
7 years ago
One or two is useful If they are brow raisers. I agree that 'I certify that the profile ...' ones are underwhelming. But genuinely, originally written ones can prove insightful.
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ArtsyLusttty
7 years ago
Op... I am with you there. Recently I found profile that has 10 validations and I immediately found it a turn off. Each to their own, I guess... s3d
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
A lovely friend of mine has just given me a validation, thank you heaps. I did have one in the past as well, that friend left RHP and therefore the validation also disappeared. Both were/are only character validations. There is probably little need for more than a few validations of any type unless you are a regular social or party event host.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I have had several female friends state to me after attending their first meet and greet that they will never attend another one. They stated this because a person was groopy and over the top touchy-feely towards them, which creeped them out. So they left. When I checked out the persons profile they had an amazing validation. It has happened a couple of times where I have met a person, checked out their validations prior and they were exactly (+ more) what was stated on their validation/s. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have been following this conversation with interest. I am like others here it seems, i had not formed an opinion on validations. Did i want some? What did i think about those in peoples profiles? At this stage i considered them like every other piece of information in a profile. Suspect until proven otherwise. Maybe i am being overly critical but atm i expect the worst and hope for the best..
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I agree. It is not until one has met a person face to face, then they can decide for themselves. It is a shame that "some" people will miss out on something that might be super. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
... or keep them. Try a reality check...would you walk in to the office on Monday morning and write that kind of shit on the whiteboard for all to see? No. I love my PA to death but do fear her left knee. ʗɱ ...the shy and bashful one who still remains a baritone regardless of the knee!.
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RHP User
2 years ago
I was just about to post the exact same thing before I checked if anyone felt the same. It is something I don't want to know, period. It really makes physically sick and reminds me of somethings teenagers would do. Not grown adults! Also, the Friends List...something I don't want to know. Some guys in here have hundreds and it is a real turn off... it shows how shallow, immature and insecure they are. Unless someone can give me a perfectly valid reason and the only one I can think of is if one of them contract a STI then they can notify all the people on their friends list!
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